sharing your stories and remembering your children
By: Maria Servold EPLA Editor
One of the hardest things about miscarriage is that many families don’t have anything physical after the event to remember their babies with. While a memorial item can never replace the baby that was lost, they can bring comfort in times of grief and help keep the memory of a miscarried child alive.
My own miscarriage was very early, and I was treated in an emergency room, so I wasn’t given any sort of memorial items that many women receive if they miscarry in a labor and delivery unit.
The Early Pregnancy Loss Association hopes to change this in a small way, by including memorial items in both sizes of our miscarriage care kits.
We include small things like knitted blankets and journals, but there are many companies that offer beautiful and meaningful memorial items for miscarried babies. Here are just a few:
My Missing Peace, an Australian company, offers unique and beautiful memorial pieces, like colorful resin hearts that contain a model of an unborn child. You can order a heart to feature one or multiple babies at whatever gestational age you’d like.
Heaven’s Gain Ministries, with whom we partner on our miscarriage care kits, offers beautiful burial boxes, urns, and memorial pieces.
A nonprofit loss support group, M.E.N.D. (Mommies Enduring Neonatal Death) has a page listing many different small companies and groups that produce memorial items for miscarriage and stillbirth, like jewelry and stuffed animals.
Etsy also lists dozens of miscarriage memorial items for sale.
While a memorial item will not be able to replace a child lost to miscarriage, many families find them helpful and comforting. If a memorial item is something you are looking for or you think a friend or family member may like, these pages will be a good start!
Maria Servold is an Editor at the EPLA, Assistant Director of the Herbert H. Dow II Program in American Journalism, and Lecturer in Journalism at Hillsdale College.