Easing the Pain of Miscarriage during the Coronavirus

By: Nick Carrington EPLA Editor

The coronavirus pandemic has changed the way we comfort the grieving. This last week, a dear friend of mine lost his father to cancer. I care deeply for the entire family, a family who made me feel like one of their own. Because of the stay-at-home order in my state, the funeral was limited to a small number of people. I watched the live stream, wishing desperately that I could be there to share memories and celebrate this man’s life.

To not physically be there was tough. Instead, I texted and wrote a letter. I prayed. I kept my physical distance, but emotionally and spiritually, I clung as close to the family as I could. Similarly, those who experience miscarriage during this pandemic will receive fewer visitors, fewer hugs, and fewer shoulders to cry on. That does not mean we can’t comfort them in other ways.

For those who have a way with words, write. The empathy that flows through the words in a card are a healing balm for the soul.

​For those who work magic in the kitchen, cook. For the grieving, there is a morsel of peace knowing a meal will be delivered, one less thing to worry about.

For those who have the resources, send gifts. A well thought out gift will reinforce the fact that a family has lost something of infinite value: a son or daughter.

​And there are many more things we can do. Be creative to overcome current challenges, but please, do not forget that loss parents will still mourn the death of their children and need help from their loved ones. Even when isolated, we can be together.

 No one should suffer through miscarriage alone. Even when isolated, we can be together.

Nick Carrington is an Editor for the EPLA and Assistant Professor of Professional Writing at Cedarville University​​.